Yesterday was a hard day to be a Mom. The fighting kids, the defiance, the fighting kids… It was one of those days. As I sat down on the couch last night exhausted, I logged on to the Mommy Mentor Facebook page and wrote, “Can we talk about how being a Mom can really suck? Today was one of those days. This 2-year-old is definitely my ticket to heaven.”
The response I received was shocking and sad, but very real. A woman called me insensitive and said that I sucked for having said that. Unfortunately, she had just miscarried her baby. My heart aches for this woman. The loss of a child causes unspeakable pain. I only know this pain second-hand, but have held the hands of sisters and friends who have gone through it.
I realized later that she, and those mothers who have lost a child, have most acutely experienced how much being a Mom can suck. When you become a Mom, your heart is so vulnerable, exposed to great joy and great sorrow. And when you lose a child, you are never the same. This is reality, y’all.
The point of the Mommy Mentor website and Facebook page is for Moms to have a place to be real. To ask questions when you’re exasperated or scared, to share funny anecdotes from your day. Above all else, you can be real here. And the reality is that motherhood can be so completely taxing and exhausting. It can suck.
If you land your dream job, there are parts of it that you may not like, may even dread. That doesn’t mean the job isn’t worth it or that you don’t value your employment. It doesn’t mean you don’t have compassion for your friends who are unemployed. It simply means you work in the real world where everything isn’t always perfect.
I deleted the Facebook post yesterday because the language was inappropriate and offensive. I wish I would have had the opportunity to offer this woman some words of consolation. I would have told her that the heartache she was experiencing made my exasperation over a defiant 2-year-old seem insignificant. And I would have welcomed her to be real with all of the Mommy Mentor readers. Just as I am real about my struggles and frustrations with being a Mom.
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