I admit it. I am a recovering rigid Mom. We had volumes of “house rules” when our 2 older children were 3- and 4-years-old. I had a little sign similar to this one posted on our side door. I thought it was clear and cute. But my kids were confused and always being told “no!”
With a full house, I just don’t have the time to be rigid anymore. Consider me cured! (Or just tired.) Either way, I came to a realization that all of our expectations for our children fall under 3 very simple rules: Be kind. Be respectful. Be safe.
Kid coloring on the wall? Not respectful of your home. Son shooting a bow and arrow at the window? Not respectful of our home and definitely not safe. Daughter kicking son in the head (like right now, as I type)? Not kind or safe. Toddler refusing to wear his buckle in the car seat? Not safe. Name calling? Not kind. You get the picture.
My Dad used to remind me to “KISS it,” and he wasn’t being vulgar. KISS stood for “Keep It Simple, Stupid.” There really is something to keeping your expectations of your children very straightforward. The next time you correct them, consider starting with a question: “Are you being kind, respectful, and safe? If no, then stop.”
Can you think of things that don’t fall under these 3 rules? I’d love to hear them so I my husband and I can adapt our expectations of our children accordingly.
You’re doing great, guys! Keep up the good work!
Mommy Mentor CurlyQ